Taking control of the mind games part 3: Let him chase you...forever.

Womanizers do strange and ridiculous things in their attempts to hunt down their latest poor victim! 


I'm not sure why they go to such lengths, but it may have something to do with Womanizers living for the chase and not the actual enjoyment of the end-result of that chase - the company of a chosen woman.
Going through the motions of chasing a woman seems to give Womanizers a bizarre high - like a drug addict.


If you want to have a few laughs at some ridiculous Womanizer in your environment, and you're sure that he's not going to stalk you or do something violent, you should try letting him chase you indefinitely!


How does this work?


Example No. 1:
Your best friend has been dating this guy for 4 years. She's madly in love with him, despite the fact that he seems to treat her like crap and make her cry regularly. Your friend voices dreams to you about planning a future with this guy. Out of the blue, he dumps her.....and three days later he's on the telephone to you asking you out on a date!
Your reply should be: "Thank you for the very sweet invitation to go out with you, I am very flattered, but NOT OVER MY DEAD BODY."


Example No. 2:
The office Romeo has slept with about 2/3rds of the women in your workplace, and now, for some reason, he seems to have his sights set on you, even though you're engaged! He keeps looking at you at every given opportunity, making you feel very uncomfortable.
Your tactic: Completely ignore him unless you absolutely have to talk to him. Watch what happens - he'll probably do some crazy shit behavior to get your attention that'll crack your girlfriends up and make them lose respect for him.
I once spent an entire elevator ride squashed up against the office Romeo who stared down at me through the entire minute that we were in the elevator together. I kept reading my paper. He stared so intently and for so long that the woman he was hanging out with burst out laughing. 


Womanizers are very good at making themselves look like fools because they're not as aware of social rules as normal human beings are.


Example No. 3: The womanizer you've been dating for a while now still hints that you and he are not really having a "monogamous" relationship, and that you're not really his "girlfriend." Despite this, he still begs you to do the deed with him!!
Your tactic: Tell him that you won't have sex until you're engaged, and, oh, by the way, Tom asked you for a date on Saturday night, and, since you're not in a "monogamous" relationship,  you thought it would be okay to say yes. If this doesn't knock some sense into your stupid Womanizer to up your status to Official Girlfriend, then he's just an idiot and you don't want to have sex with him anyway!



Example No. 4: You thought you were the Womanizer's Official Girlfriend, and that you were having a monogamous relationship, but you can't seem to reach him on his cell phone when he goes out with his buddies!
Your tactic: Monitor your phone calls for the next two weeks, and don't answer any of his calls! If he wants YOU to pick up, HE'D better pick up too! Otherwise, you are unavailable.



Remember, girlfriend, you only get involved with men who have a heart!


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Taking control of the mind games part 2: Drop him!

The fastest way to get a man who is asking for his space to miss you is to give him more space than he wanted.


You see, men like a challenge! Especially heartless Womanizers who mostly exist just for the chase.


Needy women who hang around a man constantly and give off the impression of basing their happiness upon his opinion of them are freaking scary to men!


Imagine how you would feel if there was a guy in your life who was constantly calling, emailing, buying you gifts and letting you date other men at the same time...you'd feel like he was missing his frontal lobe!!


Womanizers don't know exactly how to react when a woman in their environment leaves them alone.


They're used to being the center of attention with women everywhere....so a woman who doesn't take up his time, nor make a fool of herself around him, immediately stands out as being different from the rest of the ladies.


Does your Romeo, the love of your life, the best-looking man you've ever seen, want some time off to sleep with your cousin?!! Do a fast disappearing act - no more emails, no more telephone calls, no more accidental crossings of paths! You have a busy, productive life to lead - you don't need his crap in your life! Plus, there are other men out there who want to date you!!


Even if you are going through a dry spell in life - no other cute men around, you hate your job, or various other life problems are making you feel very needy for the Womanizer's company - remember that Womanizers tend to behave in predictable patterns that will yet-again hurt you. You have to ask yourself how many times you want to be treated like a fool in life!


Give off the impression of having an exciting life, one that doesn't necessarily involve him, and he will become very curious about you.  If he has dumped you, maybe he will come crawling back asking for more.  Then you will be in a position to decide whether YOU want him back or not.


Not paying attention to a Womanizer works wonders for a number of intentions:

1. attracting his attention initially,
   
2. punishing him with your absence if he has hurt you,
   
3. setting yourself apart as a self-sufficient, confident, exciting woman who has other options,
   
4. moving on with your life!!
   

Don't be a sucker, don't hang around him if he is behaving like a heartless asshole!!
You deserve much better than that in your life, and you simply don't have the time for pain, confusion and lies from him!!


Leaving him alone also gets easier with time.
The less time you spend with him, the more time you will have available for meeting new people, and new romantic partners.  Your newly-found peace of mind for not having the Womanizer around will make you wonder what you saw in him in the first place!


Don't tolerate rotten behavior from other people. 
If your womanizer is taking away your peace of mind, drop him!!

How To Handle A Womanizer

Hilarious tips on how to deal with a womanizing bastard, suggested by a man!!

How To Handle A Womanizer

Quote of the day:


"Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value."
— Albert Einstein


Beautiful quote, shame he was such a womanizer....
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/13804030/ 

Why it is important to have Womanizers in this world: 5 reasons!

1. We need stories to laugh about when we're having a shitty day at work.
   
2. We need stories to laugh about when we're having a girls night out.
   
3. To make our ex-boyfriends jealous.
   
4. Once in a blue moon we want to have meaningless sex, and they are cheaper than hiring a gigolo.
   
5. After our horrific experiences with them, we finally grow up and marry honest, good men.

I can't think of any more reasons - they're pretty useless.

Any more reasons, ladies? I would love to hear from you. ☻

Sex with a Womanizer...really that great??

In the 2009 movie 'Funny People', Adam Sandler plays George Simmons, a stand-up comedian who has no problem bagging and bedding hot chicks after his performances.
His newly-hired personal assistant is astonished at his success with women, and asks George about his techniques. 
"Don't worry," George tells his assistant, "they always leave dissatisfied."


The belief that womanizers are sexual athletes may actually be a huge misconception, a misconception that leads to womanizers getting even more sex than they deserve. Maybe you ladies out there can email me and tell me some of your own stories...


It is my experience that good sex, really good sex depends upon both you and your partner being able to empathize with one another's experiences. Being able to empathize with your partner during sex allows you to detect the difference between a pleasurable stroke and a painful one.


Womanizers are characterized by their lack of empathy for others! They bed and leave women, sometimes tricking the woman into believing that they are in love with her. Sometimes they are so lacking empathy that they qualify for personality disorders!
The "bedding" is often fast and furious. Don't get me wrong, they want you to have the best time of your life with them, the loudest orgasm ever....but they just don't really have the empathic skills necessary for making phenomenal love.


One outrageous womanizer I fooled around with one evening plumbed my delicate regions with his fingers so fast and furiously that I thought he was digging for oil, or drilling a hole in the road during rush hour traffic! He was unable to make me orgasm without my assistance, but still had the audacity to croon to me afterwards that he hoped that he had given me a special night that I would always remember! Yeah, right, buddy - I got better foreplay when I was 15!


Another womanizer friend I used to have spent so much effort trying to get me to sleep with him that I finally gave in. He was in such a rush to finally consummate his lust that he ended up talking me into doing it in the back of his car. It was over in 2 minutes, it felt awful, and I got leg cramps.


Another womanizing boyfriend I had in college came crawling back to me one evening, sobbing on my shoulder that the woman he'd left me for hadn't turned out to be a very nice person after all. I hadn't had sex in a while, and, thinking what the hell, went back to his place to remind myself of what I was missing. Oh boy, what a waste of time!! I should have stayed home with the vibrator. No orgasm, not even a zing. Bad, bad, bad sex.


There are reasons why women own vibrators until the right, sweet guy comes along:
Vibrators don't cheat on you, they don't burp in your face after sex, they don't fail to make you come, they don't borrow your money and drink all the alcohol in your apartment, they don't ask you to make dinner and then fail to show up.


Then when Mr. Sweet and Wonderful finally does come along, I promise you that the sex will be so much better!!


Take my husband for example... he had only ever had sex with one woman before myself.
I was worried.
Nevertheless, sex with him was instantaneously the best sex I'd ever had!!!
He took his time, he didn't mind spending an hour kissing my nipples, and two hours down there if necessary to make me cum. He refuses to do quickies - he doesn't like to orgasm unless I am orgasming also! Sorry, ladies, he's not for rent!!


Hang in there girls, no sex is better than awful, demeaning, heartless sex, and Mr Nice Guy will show up soon, I promise. ♡

How to have a relationship with a Womanizer (if you must)!

Okay, okay, so I know how we ladies are...


Sometimes we have to pursue a silly fantasy, or long-held dream, through to its sordid end before we understand that things are not going to work out the way we were hoping.
Sometimes scorned women have done crazy things to completely end their lives, like commit suicide, or murder their womanizing boyfriend!!
Most of us however destroy our lives in more subtle ways after having an encounter with a womanizer...we spend yet more years of our lives unable to trust men, we turn away sweet men who don't quite excite us as much as the Womanizer did, we kid ourselves that the bastard will come back for us after he's done with Susan, Sally, and Monique....


Well, if you just have to have that relationship with him, or else you will not feel as though you have truly lived life, here's the only way it can be done:


Mentally prepare yourself for months of smooth seduction, deceit, and abandonment...and date three other men at the same time.


Very simple right? Let's review:


Mentally prepare yourself for months of smooth seduction, deceit, and abandonment...and date three other men at the same time.


Did that sink in? I know, I know,  it is a difficult reality to face!
So let's go over it just one more time...how to have a relationship with a Womanizer:


Mentally prepare yourself for months of smooth seduction, deceit, and abandonment...and date three other men at the same time.


Still thinking you can beat the odds? Make Prince Charming fall in love with you? Make Zorro put down his crafty sword and start home-making with you? After all, you are so much more special, understanding, and beautiful than all the other women he's ever slept with... so let's go over it one final time:


Mentally prepare yourself for several months, if not years, of lies, omitted truths, cheating, STDs, and cheesy pick-up lines... and date three other men at the same time to keep yourself sane.


Got it? Good. You're in charge now, sister.☺

Taking control of the mind games, part 1: Let him eat his own shit.

If  you're a normal human being, you probably don't like to be hurtful to other people.

However, in some bizarre karma twist, if you're a nice girl, womanizers seem to be able to sniff you out and pretend to like you just long enough to suck you in and then spit you out.

In fact, womanizers are very masterful at ONLY one thing: they woo you sufficiently long to capture your attention, then you decide that you need that attention in your life to be happy, and just when you think you may actually have found a great guy with whom to be consistently happy, they do something hurtful to make you understand that you're not in control of the relationship.

Womanizers build you up, build you up, build you up with attention and flattery, then they sucker punch you right off of the pedestal they built for you in the first place.

Very classy.

You are left sprawling around on the figurative floor, rubbing your sore spots and wonderful what the hell just happened??

So how does a nice girl cope with this hurtful behavior???

By serving the BS that he doles out to you right back to him for his supper!

Oh boy, can this be fun, even if it is not in your nature to be mean! 

You're not actually being mean, you are simply following his lead. ☺

Some examples:

Example 1. You moved in with him because he begged you to, and now the bastard likes to go out at night all the time with his buddies. He doesn't want you to go with him, he doesn't answer his cell phone when he's out, and he rolls back in about 4 hours later than he said he would, stinking of alcohol. You'd like to ask him a bunch of questions about where he's been, but he passes out on the sofa. You lose another night's sleep, and then more sleep the rest of the week while you lie awake wondering what to do about this asshole...

What to do:  Apparently this one works wonders, some of my girlfriends have told me...

You go out the very next night to see one of your girlfriends. You stay the night at her house, turn off your cell phone, enjoy some wine and hilarious conversations, relax, get some sleep. You then roll back in at around 6 am, just in time to shower for work. When you are greeted in the hallway by a screaming gorilla, you wait for his tirade to end, and then you calmly and sweetly tell him that you thought it would be okay to go out for the night and not answer your cell phone because he does that to you ALL THE TIME! 

Trust me, he'll get the message.

Example 2: You're out having a great date, and, at the end of the night, he says that he wants to see you again. You say "okay!", you giggle, and you get all excited about having more fun with this gentleman. He says "Okay! Let's do next Saturday again. How 'bout 8pm again? I'll come pick you up and we'll go out for dinner."

You spend the rest of the week distracted, thinking about what you're going to wear on the outside as well as underneath, you stop eating in an attempt to lose 3 pounds, and your work productivity goes down the tube. Thursday night approaches, and he hasn't called to confirm, then Friday night, then Saturday is here. You wonder if you should call him, but an unsettling feeling in the pit of your stomach tells you that that would be a very bad idea - he has probably forgotten about you! You don't want to appear desperate so you sit by the phone until 8 pm. No call. You spend the rest of the evening in the company of a giant tub of Ben and Jerry.

What to do: Trust me ladies, if you haven't heard from him by Thursday night, that follow-up date ain't happening, so get on the phone to any MALE friends that you have (they have to be male), and offer to take them out for a movie that Saturday night. Your gay male friends will be the best company because you're probably not in any fit state for flirting and you'll need some good laughs that night. Turn off your cell phone.

When bozo eventually gets back in touch, and asks, very casually (because they like to return to the crime scene), how your weekend was, you have the perfect reply: "Sam and I went to a movie and had a blast!"

He'll think twice about blowing you off in the future, if you still want this rude jerk in your future.

Example 3: The backhanded compliment...he asks you to make dinner, you bust your ass all day thinking about what to make, then making it. He sits down to your perfectly laid table, and tells you that, well, your meal is "okay."

He spends all day flirting with you over the internet, writing compliments to you and hinting about going out on a date. He then asks for a photo. You send him your most fave photo of you, one where you don't look fat and your skin doesn't look too oily. He replies to you that your photos looks "great."

He takes you out for the evening (he asked), spends half the evening checking out other women, and then pronounces, at some point (after a couple of beers), "now that's an ass!"  Only it's not your ass he's talking about.

Before you go crying in the bathroom stall, or lose more sleep over whether you really are too fat or really do have bad skin, or your behind is not a desirable part of your body, here's how you can reclaim some of your dignity...

1. demand that he make you a meal the next night, because he's so very, very good at cooking, a real chef. Once the meal shows up, tell him, with a big smile on your face, that it's "okay!"

2. After you've recovered from hearing that your most beautiful photo looks only "great", ask him for a photo back, say that you can't remember his face very well when you close your eyes. Once that photo arrives, email back telling him that his photos looks "great too!"

3. The next time you go out on a date, ogle other men (I know that this can be a hard thing to do if you're a good girl). Make it really obvious, enjoy it as much as he does. Then, when the waiter approaches your table, state out loudly "now that's a package!" 

When you see the Womanizer's eyes start to brim with tears, and his voice falters as he realizes that some woman has just placed him out of his comfort zone, you'll feel a little better after that sucker punch and realize that you just gave one back.

Oh the other hand, putting up with lousy behavior from men is really a big waste of time.

You have to decide whether you're willing to play silly games for your man, and I personally refuse to.

Scoundrels extremely rarely turn into gentlemen, but you can help that transformation by simply refusing to play games at all. He doesn't compliment your cooking? Cook for some other man. He doesn't follow through with dates? Decide that you're too busy for such nonsense and stop dating him. He stares at other women when you go out? Don't go out with him anymore!

Give the impression of being an independent woman who doesn't take crap from men, and all of a sudden you will find yourself surrounded by gentlemen (i.e., the womanizers will steer clear of you and the nice guys will treat you well).

Life is too short to be unhappy.

Don't put up with crap. ♡

Suggestion No. 1: Take off the rose-colored spectacles

Oh good god,

I was in love with this total loser for about four years.

He was much older than myself, and, I thought at the time, the most gorgeous man I had ever seen! We are talking complete Adonis here. Tall, dark and handsome with a beautiful foreign accent, a voice that used to stop me in my tracks when I would hear him....sigh....how he used to make my heart pound when I would see him approaching!! So handsome, I would break out in a sweat and feel instantly like vomiting!!

He had a reputation for being a ladies man, and women everywhere seemed to be talking about him, spreading rumors about his love life, trying to work with him, following him around, and generally looking like a bunch of idiots around him.

I spent four years wondering what he might look like naked, and how he would be in the sack before I finally ended up being alone in a room at night with him.

Wow, what a shock!!

I took in his naked form in utter disbelief. 

After four years of waiting, this is what I was treated to:

Legs skinnier and more feminine than my own. 

An incredibly gay tattoo on his ass (hmmm...is he bi? I wondered to myself...). 

A slightly caved-in chest. 

The beginnings of kyphosis.

His you-know-what was certainly a considerable size, something to be proud of, but his testicals were so small and hairless that they looked as though they were trying to crawl back into his pelvic cavity!!!

Oh man, what a disappointment.

Had this gentleman actually shown an interest in me over the years, and had he acted as my friend when I had needed him, none of these physical attributes (deficits) would have influenced my burning desire for him. However, as it turned out, he was as ugly on the outside as he had tended to be towards me on the inside!!

Eh voila - ongoing flame of love snuffed out!

Be realistic ladies...are there physical attributes of your Don Juan that are not so beautiful?? Does he have nasty habits that freak you out? 

Write down a list of all things about him that give you the heebie-jeebies, tape that list to your mirror, and read it to yourself at least twice a day.

Those defects are real, baby, the only things about him that are real, unlike his false promises!!


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Dear ladies...

Dear ladies everywhere,

If you were born a girl and have lived life, you have probably, at some point, encountered a Womanizer...maybe slept with one, probably at the very least gotten your heart broken by one. 

If you are as old as I am, perhaps you have encountered a womanizer more than once, unfortunately! Perhaps the bastards took a few years of your life, while you tried to pick up the pieces and move on after having spent days dreaming about him, or having sabotaged some other relationship for him, maybe even having a child out of wedlock to hang around with him for a few more useless years...

Well, this blog is to vent, share ideas about how to mess with womanizers without getting into trouble with law, and how to reclaim your dignity and your life!

You see, what Womanizers don't understand is that, after all the initial fireworks have died down, they are incredibly boring. So unbelievably boring!!! No consistently wonderful Valentine's days, no life landmarks shared together, no continued deep conversations, no consistent, heartfelt interest in a woman's beliefs or opinions, no amazing birthday presents, nobody to make you chicken soup when you're sick nor to help you when you need to move apartments, no offers of plans for an exciting future together...sheesh, these fools are about as interesting as a chocolate easter bunny: look good on the outside, nothing on the inside...same old predictable, sugary, empty calorie-laden crap to eat for Easter every year that adds a few pounds to your muffin-top and makes you feel sick.

Ladies, there are ways to deal with these men!

I'm a smart chick, smarter than they are, and you can be too.

I've had lots of practice at dealing with these airheads, and here are some of my ideas. :D

Love and hugs to you all!

May no more tears be shed xoxoxoxoxo